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An Ode to ______ship

Summer is ending, and that means teachers like me (and maybe you) are getting ready to go back to full-time work. To help me forget the impending return and to have some fun, let’s play a game of “Song Title Fill in the Blank.” After all, I love to include these types of questions when I prepare tests for my students. I will add I don’t own the rights to these songs and/or lyrics, and I’m not even sure I own the rights to my own name anymore. Here goes—try your best:

“I get by with a little help from my ___________________.”

“You gotta have ______________________.”

“___________________ are __________________ forever.”

“You’ve got a ___________________.”

“Thank you for being a ______________________.”

“People, let me tell you about my best ________________________.”

What’s the answer? Beagles? Robots? Chimpanzees?

Nope. It’s . . . wait for it . . .

Friends.

Yay, you got it! What does this have to do with writing? Well, everything. Where would I be without my writer friends? I am thankful for all my friends, but my writer friends hold a special place in my heart, as they can identify with a lot of different things I go through:

–They share the feeling that, when I have a deadline, I want to do anything (vacuum, wash dishes, build an addition onto the house) but write.

–They know the emotions that come when I write something that seems so bad, I want to throw the laptop in the road.

–They understand the feeling of revising a piece over and over, clicking “send,” and then realizing 15 more things I want to change.

–They remain friends even when I go into the “cocoon” to write for a big project with a looming deadline (or when I avoid the deadline by vacuuming, washing dishes, or building an addition onto the house).

–They cheer me on in my writing victories and commiserate with me in the rejections and failures.

–They attend writers conferences with me and hang out with me at the coffee shop even though I don’t drink coffee, laugh with me, and help me storm the lunch line in search of chocolate macaroon cookies (Oh, and attend classes with me—guess I should include that).

–They pray for me when I need help or when I am ready to quit.

So, thanks to all my writer friends—past, present, and future. If you see me at a writers conference, feel free to be my friend, but don’t expect me to drink coffee with you. Why don’t we do smoothies instead? Or chocolate macaroons?

After all, that’s what _____________ are for.            

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Are You Missing Number Six?

My daughter and I recently visited a discount bookstore–a writer’s happy place. It became even happier when we discovered that they were having a sale, all the books you could fit in a tote bag for one price.

We quickly made our way to the children’s section. I love writing for children and my daughter is a preschool teacher, searching for books for her classroom. We also had a third reason for making a bee line to the kiddy side of the store. I have a beautiful little fifteen-month-old grandniece, Janie, whom I love to spoil with books. So, we compiled our books, filled our bag, paid for our purchase and longingly sighed as we walked out of our happy place.

A few weeks later, we were going to visit Janie and we went through the books to choose a couple to take to her. One of them was a counting book with bright colors and cute illustrations, but, as I read the book, I realized that number six was gone. The page had been torn out, evidently ripped out by the previous owner who was not as civilized as my wonderful little grandniece. So, now we were faced with a decision. Do we discard the book or give it to her with the number six missing? We decided that the book was just too cute to discard, and, although Janie was too young to miss six now, in all her brilliance she would soon be able to instinctively know it was there.

Do you ever look at your writing and think your number six is missing? As you reread, your latest masterpiece, there is just something not right. I wonder how many unfinished stories, articles, manuscripts, or wonderful ideas are discarded because one small part was missing.

I’m not saying that the number six isn’t important. It’s just as important as all the others, but don’t abandon ship just yet because of one missing element.

One tip I use to find my missing number six is reading my writing aloud. Pretend you are reading to your target audience or that they are reading it. I also have someone else read my piece, if possible, and then read it aloud to me. This is also where writer buddies and critique groups come in. They are on the job of telling you how to fix that unaccounted for six.

The second tip is to ask your readers what is missing from your writing. They have an opinion, I promise you, and it just might be one that you could agree with and find helpful.

If we had discarded the counting book, we wouldn’t have seen Janie’s eyes light up when we gave it to her. Don’t let a missing number six keep you from lighting up someone’s world with your writing.

Sue Davis Potts is a freelance writer from Huntingdon, Tennessee. She is mother to her beautiful adult daughter, Jessa. She enjoys writing for both children and adults. Sue worked for years as a preschool teacher but feels most at home these days with other writers who speak her language. She has been published in local magazines, anthologies, Ideals, Southern Writer’s Magazine and Focus on the Family’s children’s magazines Clubhouse and Clubhouse, Jr.

She authored a children’s library book.  She is the author of a book of short motivations 101 Life Lessons From Uno (The One-Legged Duck) and coauthored The Priceless Life (The Diane Price Story). Both books are available on Amazon. Sue can be found on her website, www.suedavispotts.com.

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Syrup, Anyone?

One thing I always tell budding writers, both in my classes at school and in my role as a mentor:

Know the basics.

You cannot escape punctuation and grammar. Simple mistakes in these areas will mark you as an amateur and will probably land you in the trash pile.

I recently found an example of a time when I learned the importance of good spelling.

I cleaned out my old house when we moved to our current one a couple of years ago and stacked up some picture frames in a small nook (or was it a cranny? Not sure.). One of those frames featured multiple “openings” to display different pictures. When I moved it the other day, some of the pictures slipped out of place, and I noticed there was a document underneath the photos. Upon further inspection, I realized it was a certificate from my school days:

Jenkins Middle/High School Spelling Bee, Finalist: Carlton Hughes

It also had a date, which I won’t reveal on the grounds that I am very old and yet don’t want you to think I’m older than I really am.

ANYWAY, my mind drifted back . . . A LOT of years to that fateful night. I made it through several rounds, taking out fellow students from various grades, and was one of three contestants in the finals. It was a big deal! I had always prided myself on being a good speller, making A’s on every spelling test. You might say I was born for this moment. Being the BMOC 7th grader I was, I felt confident going into that last round—nervous but confident.

(NOTE: when I say I was a BMOC (big man on campus), I mean I was big in terms of WEIGHT and HEIGHT, not in COOLNESS.)

I was called to the podium, and the announcer gave me my word. I still remember to this day, after . . . A LOT of years.

“Carlton, your word is  . . . syrup.”

A-ha! Here’s a familiar word. At the time, I had waffles or pancakes for breakfast five or six days a week.

The happy ending would have been that I spelled the word correctly, placed first, won some money, and moved on to regional competition. My mother would maybe even make me my favorite homemade pancakes to celebrate, which I would drown in . . . you got it . . . SYRUP.

Instead, my answer went something like this: “Syrup . . . S-R-Y-U-P.”

Cue the loser sound effect. WAH WAH.

I was crushed. My mother came up to me afterwards and said, “you eat syrup nearly everyday for breakfast!” Yes, I knew that–didn’t know the spelling but knew about my morning food choices.

Good spelling is an important part of good writing; readers should be able to follow our plots and our flow without being distracted by a misspelled word. Personally, I tend to notice typos, grammar issues, and misspellings in books and in other publications, and it often draws me away from the story.

My ultimate advice: learn how to spell, and, when it doubt, look it up or leave it out. Now, pass the SYRUP.

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Win Friends, Impress People, Choke Up

In this space before, I have mentioned the importance of meeting new people and developing new relationships at writers conferences. Where else can you find people like you—grownups who listen to the voices in their heads, write down what they say, and then try to publish it? You want to get to know these people, right? Or should that be write

First impressions are important but are seldom 100% accurate. After all, many of us try to “put on the dog” to impress people at these events. Trust me, that doesn’t work.

Several years ago, I attended a “Meet and Greet” at a conference. There were many friends in attendance, as well as guest speakers, editors, and faculty members. Definitely a place to put your best foot forward, and definitely not a place to embarrass yourself.

Well, I am always going to be . . .  me.

The event was held in a huge meeting room. One side featured tables and couches for “fellowship,” with the bookstore on the other side. A snack table full of finger foods and other goodies was located in the middle.

I first looked for bargains at the book tables, as my “mad book money” was extremely limited. One book that looked interesting was only $3—practically the only thing in my price range. The author had a box on his table for a giveaway of the book, so I entered my name, although, in these situations, I either (1) don’t win anything or (2) win something but I’m in the hallway talking and miss my name being called. I’m talented like that.

I made my way to the “fellowship” area and divided my time between groups of friends and editors and the publishers I wanted to impress. I looked over to the bookstore area and noticed people at the table with the book I wanted, so I figured I had better “seize the day” and push people out of the way to get my bargain. Not really, but, hey, I needed to get my book. I passed the snack table on my way and had to stop.

I’ve never been able to walk by a snack table and not partake of the treats. I scooped some peanuts onto one of the tiny plates and started munching as someone got on the P.A. system to announce the winner of the book giveaway. As a name was drawn, I started choking on a peanut.

I was hacking and coughing so hard a fellow nearby asked if I needed the Heimlich. I waved him off, right at the moment the winner was announced.

“Carlton Hughes!” I had finally won something, was finally present to hear my name—while I was coughing up a lung.

I walked (and hacked) to the makeshift stage to get my book and returned to the garbage can near the snack table, thinking that lung might come up any time. Someone told the book’s author I was a college professor, which was also the author’s profession, so he came over to ask numerous questions about my work. The conversation went something like this:

Him: “What courses do you teach?”

Me: “(Cough) Communications (Hack) and journalism.”

Him: “How long have you been teaching?”

Me: “(Hack) Over (Cough) 20 (Hack) years.”

Somehow, I don’t think I impressed him.

Some wise advice I learned the hard way: in writing or at writers conferences, don’t work so hard to impress others. Be yourself, have fun, and avoid the peanuts.

And you must be present to win.

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Lest We Forget . . .

I am Almost an Author “original member,” writing for this blog since it began; I am not even sure how many years have passed. From almost the beginning, my pieces have posted on the sixth of the month, reliable as Old Faithful.

An important part of blogging is promotion. Obviously, if you write something—that you are proud of, that took a lot of time and thought, that features a message you think should be heard—you want people to read it. The last thing you want is for that piece to float in cyberspace, with no one noticing it.

You would think, with me having a post on the sixth of the month for what seems like forever, I would remember to share and to promote it. You would think I would have it marked on the calendar and ingrained in my psyche. You would think that. You would be wrong.

I tend to forget the post nearly every month. When I remember, I share and share and share, but, by then, the post has already been floating out there, as mentioned above, for days, left to fend for itself with no boost from its author.

Take last month, for example. Like clockwork, my post was up on the sixth of the month, to which I was oblivious. Like sand in the hourglass, the days passed (Yes, I was raised with a grandmother who watched her stories every day). On the morning of the thirteenth, I woke up, and, out of the blue, it hit me: I had a post published LAST WEEK!

I got up, grabbed my laptop, and found my post. I shared it on all of my social media, and, much to surprise, it got a great response with many comments and shares. Imagine how much better it would have been if I had, you know—REMEMBERED THE DAY IT ACTUALLY POSTS.

Promotion is important, but I like to think God watches out for people with poor memories like mine. If He wants people to see a certain message, He will make it happen, even if it is a few days (or a week) late.

You might be reading this post on the sixth, or you might be reading it whenever I remember to share it. Either way, I hope you are blessed by it.

Now, where did I leave my keys?

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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MIstaken Identity

The other day, I was reading a book from reputable publisher and noticed a mistake—a misspelling of a fairly simple word.

It was like nails on a chalkboard.

I got my start in copyediting and still serve as a student newspaper adviser, so I tend to notice EVERYTHING—a missing comma, a misplaced modifier, a misspelled word. These issues “stick out like a sore thumb,” as we like to say here in the mountains of Kentucky.

One of my favorite quotes is,

“Learn from the mistakes of others; you can never live long enough to make them all yourself.”

I would give you some attribution, but no one, not even Google, seems to know who said it. According to the “experts,” it could have been Groucho Marx, Eleanor Roosevelt, or Woody Allen. Wouldn’t that make a fine dinner party?

For years, I have taught the “new attendees” class at our statewide writers conference, and my main objective is to be transparent and to discuss my mistakes. And, oh, have I made mistakes!

Sometimes I think I am the “King of Writer Mistakes.” Here are some highlights:

  1. I have submitted things that weren’t ready for other eyes. I arrived at my first writers conference with a printed copy of what I thought was the next red-hot bestseller. I figured someone would offer me a contract by supper on the first day of the conference, and I would return to the event the next year as the keynote speaker, with my published book in tow. Well, that STILL hasn’t happened. I finally realized I needed more training and more information about the industry. Many, many years after that first conference, I am still learning.
  2. I have approached editors/publishers/agents without a proper pitch and plan. At my first big-time conference, I made appointments and had no idea what to do during them. I had no one-sheet and no planned pitch. I’m sure those people look back and chuckle. With many conferences under my belt now, I realize the importance of pitch and planning (Hey, that sounds like a book—don’t steal my idea!).
  3. I have chosen not to follow up on offers to send in my work. Yes, I have been one of those people, who got an invitation to send samples to an editor but didn’t follow through. I’m still kicking myself. I have allowed fear and a sense of unworthiness keep me from connecting. One particular (unnamed) person intimidated me so much I almost quit writing. I have realized editors, agents, and publishers won’t actually eat you, and rejection won’t kill you.
  4. Speaking of rejection, I have let it keep me from pursuing my goals. One year I had a promising “bite” from an editor. I submitted my work and almost immediately received a stinging rejection. I didn’t write for months after that. I  have learned rejection is part of a writer’s life, and I can’t let it get me down.

So learn from my mistakes, and keep writing and pressing on toward your goal.

God’s strength is made perfect in our weaknesses, and I am certainly living proof.

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Ordinary People, Extraordinary Callings

“Why me, Lord?”

This question was something I often asked when I first felt called to write, and I still ask that question from time to time. Why would God call ME to write for Him when he made Max Lucado, Rick Warren, Karen Kingsbury, and countless others who are WAY more talented than me?

I am a fairly ordinary guy. I’m middle aged . . . ish . . . with the gut that comes along with that. But I like cookies more than broccoli, so whatever. I go to work, eat, watch TV, sleep. I find typos in books, on signs, and on social media posts and get aggravated about them (oops, that means I’m a writer).

In studying for my children’s church lesson for this week, I had an “A-HA” moment: God specializes in using ordinary people to do extraordinary things to fulfill His purposes.

Take Mary, for example. By all accounts, she was just a normal girl, dedicated to serving God and pledged to marry a regular guy, yet God sent a messenger from Heaven to tell her she was THE chosen one to be the mother of His Son. Mary was quite flabbergasted at first but accepted her calling, saying “let it be to me according to Your word.”

An ordinary girl doing an extraordinary thing for the Lord.

Then there was Joseph. Can you imagine what this carpenter felt when his fiancé told him what was happening? He wanted to “put Mary away” until God sent His messenger to clarify Joseph’s mission as Jesus’ earthly father.

A simple man with an extraordinary calling from God.

You may feel God is calling you to write something extraordinary, to step out of your comfort zone. The key is to say “Yes” like Mary and Joseph did. A few years ago, I felt God calling me to write devotions.

Who me? I’m not a devotional writer! I have never written anything like that! I eventually said “Yes,” and look what God has done! A book and several other featured devotionals later, I can reflect on how God has used me in this area.

An ordinary guy writing stuff with an extraordinary purpose for God.

Feeling ordinary today? Just say “Yes” to the One who designed you for extraordinary things. Like Mary, when God calls, respond with “let it be to me according to Your word.”

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Pray and Submit

The text came while my wife and I were traveling home from an out-of-town doctor’s appointment.

“I’m doing a new book, and, for the first time, I am open to submissions from men. Submit something!”

My friend has edited a series of books about “Warrior Women,” focusing on various aspects of Christian life. I had heard about them and seen pictures of the covers but had never considered writing for one of the books, as the previous editions had been stories about women, by women.

My friend proceeded to give me the theme and the deadline, and I told her I would think and pray about it and try to submit something. Over the next few weeks, I got caught up in the busyness of life—work, church commitments, etc.—and forgot about the project.

I finally remembered . . . on deadline day. I got home from a long, hard day at my job and thought about how I would word a message to my friend, telling her I was not going to be able to submit anything. I hate disappointing people, but I did not see any other choice. How could I put something together this late in the process? When I need to do some serious thinking or praying, I take a walk in my neighborhood.

I set off on the windy country road and started talking to God. As I walked and talked, an idea came to mind, like an instant download from above. By the time I reached the end of the road and turned around to head home, the ideas were firmly in my mind. I hurried home, grabbed my laptop, and hammered out a story with the “Warrior Woman” theme.

Like most any writer would do, I finished and then walked away for a while, letting the story stew in my mind, going back to it for a quick revision after a while. At the zero hour, I clicked “send” on the submission to my friend. She was thrilled and even asked for photos to accompany the story.

The moral to the story? Never say never on a project until you talk to God. Prayer sharpened my focus and gave me the final push for an idea and to finish the piece. Is prayer a “magic pill” or a “free pass” to writing? Absolutely not. But, if I am pursuing God and talking to Him regularly, my writing will flow from that communication.

Carlton

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate–all chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul; The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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You Never Know

I love writing conferences. If you have been reading this blog for very long, you already know that, because I have written about them many, many times.

I love the camaraderie of those with like minds. I love learning new things about writing and the publishing industry. I love eating in the cafeteria and pretending it is summer camp with all my friends.

Today I am thinking about the opportunities provided during the one-on-one appointments with editors, publishers, and the like. I love those, too, for you never know what’s going to happen and when God is going to open a door from a seemingly random encounter.

At the conference I attended this year, I signed up for two appointments with people I really wanted to talk to. SCORE! The rule with this conference states you’re allowed two appointments during the initial sign-up period—which is a free-for-all, by the way. It’s a good thing it’s a Christian conference, or else there would be pushing, shoving, and cage matches.

After that initial wrestling match—er, signup period—you are allowed to go back the next morning for additional appointments if there are open slots left. Not one to ignore an extra opportunity, I always go back to check the appointment sheets. This year, I signed up for my third appointment with a writer/editor I didn’t really know, but, when she introduced herself at the group meeting, she said she was looking for parenting articles.

I recently co-authored a devotional book, Adventures in Fatherhood, about . . . PARENTING, so I thought, why not talk to this person?

It turned out to be a divine appointment. At our meeting, she grabbed my book and screamed “I LOVE IT!” We discussed her editorial needs, and she suggested I send copies of the book to contacts at an organization she once worked for and still does some consulting. I won’t mention the name of the organization, but they do have a keen focus.

Back home, I stood in the valley of decision. Did I really want to send someone a book out of the blue? Wouldn’t that seem a bit weird? Have I ever denied that I am weird? Don’t answer that last question.

I took the plunge and sent the books, because you never know. That phrase has become my theme for seeking writing opportunities: it just might be a God-thing. You never know unless you try.

After I put the copies in the mail, my school year started, and my schedule was full. I had forgotten I had sent the books until, a few weeks later, I got an email from a representative of the organization. He and his staff LOVED the book and wanted to discuss freelance opportunities with me and my co-author.

Say what? A person gets a random book and likes it? And wants me to write some more? DOUBLE SCORE!

Lesson learned: take the opportunity. Try, even it seems random. After all, nothing is random with God.

You never know.

Carlton

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Read All About It

I had a post due today, but I was reading.

I mean, for a writer, isn’t that a good excuse? If we are going to be good writers and hone our craft, shouldn’t we be reading? Isn’t that the point?

I know . . . it is just an excuse, but it is a good one. A friend of mine recently released a book, and I dug into it this weekend. Today is Saturday. I read from the evening into the night on Thursday and Friday. I did not get to read during the daytime hours because of that little thing called MY DAY JOB. If I could have taken the book with me on those days, I would have (Shhhh, do not tell my boss.).

I have read most of the day today and am almost finished with the book (which is wonderful, by the way). I decided to take a break to rest my eyes. In a quiet moment, I thought, Oh, I have a post due.

What to write about? Reading! After all, as a kid, I learned READING IS FUNDAMENTAL. What I would really like to talk about is reading to support a friend.

I know what it’s like to be a writer, to open that vein and release everything on paper. I know what it’s like to be a published writer, to wonder (1) if anyone is reading the book and (2) if anyone is enjoying the book.

The writing community, especially the Christian writing community, is a big family, and family members support each other. When family members face rejection and have a hard time, we need to be there to cheer them up or to be a shoulder to cry on. When family members experience success and get published, we need to celebrate with them . . . and read their stuff.

I cannot say I am perfect in doing this. Like many of you, my “To-Be-Read” pile threatens to overtake my bedstand, and many of those titles are books from my friends. Slowly but surely, I am making my way through them and will even try to leave reviews online, if possible. More importantly, I will reach out to them to let them know (1) I read their books and (2) I enjoyed their work (My friends are great writers, I just know it).

That’s the least a friend—no, family member—can do.

(I just wrote that line hours after I wrote the rest of this post; hey, I had to finish the book!)

Carlton

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Conferences over, Now What?

I’ve been to two writers conferences (one in-person, one virtual) in the last few weeks, and, boy, is my brain tired.

The in-person conference was literally a breath of fresh air, as I emerged from the quarantine/lockdown cocoon into my true form as a social butterfly. It was great seeing so many friends in one place and catching up after a long two years away. Oh yeah, there were classes and appointments as well, which were all valuable.

I didn’t get to participate in all of the sessions of the online conference due to some different concerns, but what I did get to hear was extremely helpful. I got practical tips for continuing my writing journey and inspiration for what lies ahead.

Now comes the FUN part: the conference follow-ups. I’m SO excited and SO ambitious about the work ahead. I believe I have mentioned before that sarcasm is my love language . . . along with chocolate, but that’s another blog post.

I always have good intentions: return those emails; write those new proposals; respond to those invitations to write blogs, articles, etc. But then life happens. There’s stuff to do for my day job; housework; people to help in my own backyard. Plus, all those games of Spider Solitaire and Word Crossy aren’t going to play themselves, you know.

In the past, I have been the King of Procrastination, but I am making progress. I have already made email contact for a prospective blog writing assignment (Shhhhh, don’t tell the A3 people!) and worked on two different proposals. I once heard that editors don’t hear back from over half of the people they meet at conferences, and I don’t want to be in that number. I want to be that one who makes contact and follows through, even if it means rejection. I won’t know until I try, right?

I’m setting aside tomorrow to finish those proposals and to make some more email contacts. Right after the Andy Griffith Show marathon.

Old habits die hard, people.

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Over-Preparing?

As I write this, I’m getting ready to attend my first in-person writers conference in two years. I have been so busy planning and packing, I nearly forgot to write this post. I am thankful for social media reminders!

I feel a bit like an alien, preparing to land on a new planet. Can anyone relate? It has been so long since I have been able to gather with others and socialize, I don’t quite know how to act.

When I started packing, I selected enough clothes to spend about two weeks away (Did I mention I’ll be gone for three days?). After I weeded down the clothes, I started thinking about the additional things I would need, like notepads, pens, my computer, and, of course, snacks. Again, I over-thought everything, so I needed to cut down to a manageable number of items. At the rate I was going, I would have looked like the Beverly Hillbillies trucking down the highway with all sorts of things hanging off the vehicle.

Finally, I thought about those minor details—one sheets, writing samples, business cards. Actually, those are IMPORTANT things! Like I said, it’s been a looonnng time since I have attended such an event, so I’m bit rusty.

The more I have thought about this conference, the more I realize the truth of what I tell first-time attendees when I teach the “Newbie” class at another event. The most important thing about a writers conference: the people.

The relationships you make with the people at a conference are vital, everlasting. Book projects come and go, but your friendships will last much longer. I found my agent by hanging out during breaks (we were friends long before I became his client). I have bonded over cookies in the cafeteria. I have spent nights laughing and catching up over ice cream. (Yes, most of my special moments include food). I met the co-author of my book in the appointment sign-up room. I wish I could list all of the friends I have made at writers conferences, but there isn’t enough space.

These friends not only understand what it’s like to be a writer (and to struggle at times), but they have stood by me through the ups and downs of life.

So, I am not going to worry so much about the clothes, the electronics, and the writing stuff (though those things are important) as I prepare for the conference. I am going to anticipate hugs (!) and special times with my friends.

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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What Do You Write?

It’s almost SWCS, or Summer Writers Conference Season, for those of you who don’t know. I attended my first writers conference years ago and have attended many of them since. At that first one, I learned something right away.

When you sit down next to anyone at a writers conference, there will always be a basic first question.  You might think it would be, “What is your name?” Not so, because you’re most likely going to be wearing some form of ungainly nametag, so that information will be clear.

No, the first question will be: “What do you write?”

I have been asked that question when I sat down for meals, classes, and for a break outside. New friends, old friends, famous authors, and not-so-famous authors have inquired this information from me. I have probably even been asked this question in the bathroom, although I don’t remember a specific instance (Plus, men’s rooms at writers conference tend to be less populated than ladies rooms).

Last year, I taught at the virtual Kentucky Christian Writers Conference, and I was amazed at the discussions in the chat feature. Attendees interacted much as they would have at a live conference, and people still constantly asked . . . you got it . . . “What do you write?”

As I gear up to attend such events this year (one virtual, one live), I have thought of some creative, off-the-wall answers to the classic question, just to spice things up a bit. So here goes.

“What do you write?”

“Feline nonfiction novels.”

“Amish speculative fiction. Watch out, Martha, there’s something in the butter!”

Look around suspiciously and whisper, “I can’t talk about it in public.”

“Your Best Quarantine Life Now: Changing Your Pajama Pants More Than Twice a Week.”

“Amish romantic suspense. Watch thy back, Levi.”

“A new devotional book, 365 Days with Teenagers. 100 stories about sleeping in, 100 stories about not cleaning your room, 100 stories about junk food. I don’t know about the other 65—I’ll do that tomorrow. Or someday.”

A Quarantine Cookbook: Making Meals Out of Butter Crackers, Cheese, Peanut Butter, and Old Chocolate Chips Found in the Cabinet.”

“Amish Dystopian Teenage Romance: No Hunger Games with MY Bread, Sarah.”

“I don’t want to tell, because I’m afraid someone will steal my idea. But I have printed out my work in three hardback notebooks and have them with me.”

Hopefully you can tell my tongue is firmly in my cheek. On a serious note, if you do attend a writers conference and are asked this question, be yourself and talk confidently about your work.

Martha and Levi would not want it any other way.

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Are You Ready for Success?

I read an article recently about actors that are great at what they do but not so great at being a successful person. They let their fame go to their head; they became entitled, hard to work with, and rude. More than likely, success found them before they were ready.

So, how will you be when you are successful?

Have you ever thought about it? If not, why?

You have prayed to be successful, haven’t you? If you have prayed for success, have faith that it’s going to happen. Be like the little boy who prayed for rain and went home to get his umbrella. Make sure you are ready when it comes.

I have had the honor of meeting quite a few successful writers, and I discovered that they are some of the nicest, most unselfish people in the world. They are willing to share their time and knowledge to help others on their writing journey. They love to sign autographs and talk to their fans about their books. They know how to win joyfully and lose gracefully. They celebrate the accomplishment of others even when that person wins an award they were up for too.

So, are you ready for success? You don’t have to wait until you reach the big time to find out. Are you helping others on the way? There will always be a newbie at a conference looking for a friendly face or someone who needs encouragement to keep plugging away.

You may not be where you want to be, but you might be the most successful writer someone knows. I was recently contacted by a lady who lives in my town because she saw my picture on the back of a book I co-authored. She said she had been praying for a writer to talk to about a project she was working on. She received the book as a gift, and when she looked at the back, there I was, a real writer in her own hometown.

I spent a few minutes on the phone with her, answering questions. When I realized that I didn’t have all the answers she needed, I contacted a writer friend and found the answers for her.

Writing is looking ahead for new opportunities and reaching back to help others when you are successful. After all, isn’t doing what you love and lending a helping hand a good definition of success?

Sue Davis Potts is a freelance writer from Huntingdon, Tennessee. She is mother to her beautiful adult daughter, Jessa.

Sue enjoys writing for both children and adults. She worked for years as a preschool teacher but feels most at home these days with other writers who speak her language. She has been published in local magazines, anthologies, Ideals, Southern Writer’s Magazine and Focus on the Family’s children’s magazines Clubhouse and Clubhouse, Jr.

She authored a children’s library book and her book of short motivations 101 Life Lessons from Uno (The One-Legged Duck) and the book she co-authored The Priceless Life: The Diane Price Story is available on Amazon. Sue can be found on Facebook and her website, www.suedavispotts.com

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What to Write?

It was Sunday. I woke up fairly early (that’s 8 or 8:30 for me) and looked at the date. January 24.

What a minute—what? I was shaken fully awake by the realization that the next day, January 25, was Almost An Author Blog Post Deadline Day.

Cue the music . . . duh-duh-duh!

What am I going to do? What I am going to write about? Will they fire me by ending a sentence with preposition?

I got up and wrote a thrilling, deep post.

Okay, that’s not true. I got up, got dressed, ate breakfast, headed off to church. The mysterious, “what’s it gonna be” post was in the back of my mind, but I concentrated on the worship and the message. The thought that I had a blog post due in 24 hours drifted away.

I came home, ate lunch, and settled in my recliner. That’s when the thought came back.

Oh, no, A3 deadline next day. WHAT AM I GOING TO WRITE ABOUT?

I didn’t grab my laptop to punch out perfect prose. I did what I usually do when I am at a loss for words and ideas: I took a walk. As I strolled down my country road, I felt led to look up.

Some background: I live in the mountains of Eastern Kentucky, one of the most beautiful places on earth, but I often take it for granted. On this particular day, it was a bit chilly and overcast, not ideal for scenery with the barren winter, but I looked up.

That’s when I saw it, a glimpse of God’s amazing beauty. The mountains were there above me in all their majesty, still snowcapped from a weather system earlier in the week. The scene was framed by  pine trees that were full along with some of the bare trees mixed in, intertwining to highlight the artistry.

I drank in the scene for a few minutes, and, of course, took a picture with my phone (Yes, I am THAT person). I continued my walk and felt a catch in my spirit—something to write about (There’s that preposition thing again).

My advice to you, writer stuck for words and ideas, is to look up. Sometimes, stepping away from the work and looking up to see the beauty around us are what we need. For many of us that can be hard to do, but the reward is great.

God’s beauty is there if we seek it, making it possible to share with others, whether it be through a painting, a photo, or words on the page.

It may even be through a blog post that was almost late.

Editor’s Note: Wonderful advice, but I’ll be watching for those prepositions! (Actually, it’s perfectly acceptable grammar to end a sentence with a preposition. So don’t worry.)

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate—all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Write What You Know

They say to write what you know.

Have you ever wondered who they are? I think they are the same people who tell us to eat our vegetables, to use signal lights, and to not wear white after Labor Day.

Anyway, whoever they are, writing what you know is good advice. If it is a subject in which you have experience, you are more likely to be confident in your work, and your audience will likely trust you more.

For example, I could never be the author of Basic Car Repair or Technical Stuff and You. I am totally inept when it comes to such things, but, if you need advice on tools or repairs, ask my wife. I can write you a book with funny remarks in it; she can build you something. It’s how we roll.

I have been thinking of writing about what I know in these current weird times in which we are living. Some possible titles might include:

Herding Cats: Teaching Virtual Classes to High School and College Students

The Spider Solitaire King

Tubbo: An Easy Guide to Gaining Weight During a Pandemic

Oh, I Wanna Hug Somebody

Procrastination, How I Love Thee, Let Me Count the Ways . . . Tomorrow

Just One More Zoom Meeting

Sweatin’ Under My Mask

Amish Alien Abductions

(I actually made that last one up. Seriously. I know nothing.)

On a semi-serious note, writing what you know can be an effective way to reach a specific audience by sharing your experiences and knowledge. I recently co-authored a devotional, Adventures in Fatherhood, with my friend Holland Webb. We wrote stories about rearing our children and what God taught us along the way. The book has two unique perspectives.

I approached the stories from the point of view of a married man who raised his two sons alongside his wife; Holland is an adoptive single father. I could not write about raising kids on my own, as I know nothing about that, while Holland doesn’t know any other way. Hopefully different people can relate to “what we know.”

I recently received a 30-Year Service Award at the college where I teach. It will come as no surprise that I am “stewing over” ideas for a devotional about . . . you got it, teaching. It’s what I know.

So, if you are stuck about what to write, look around you. What experiences do you have that can speak to others’ lives? You might be impressed at the ideas that come.

Now, I need to get back to work. I have stories to write and classes to teach, and those Solitaire games are not going to play themselves.

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate–all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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You Released a Book WHEN?

I released a book during a pandemic. What’s new with you?

I waited years upon years to see a book with my name on the cover. That dream came true on April 7, 2020 with the release of Adventures in Fatherhood, a 60-Day Devotional co-authored with good friend (and fellow A3 columnist) Holland Webb.

When you get a book contract, you have hopes, plans, and dreams about the book release. At a writers conference last year, I even attended a workshop on “How to do a Book Launch.”

A month before the release, I received a case of books from the publisher. I scheduled a book launch party in the town where I live. I contacted venues about having one in my hometown, about an hour away. I made plans to do something special with my friends at Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference, the event where I met my co-author and where the idea for the book was hatched. I had even planned a fatherhood-themed costume for Genre Night.

And then, just like that, everything closed, all events were postponed or even cancelled (For the record, BRMCWC was rescheduled for mid-November—watch out, pals), and my day job was shifted to home.

So long, hopes, plans, and dreams. It was nice knowing you.

Seriously, people were suffering around the world with a terrible medical condition. My concern over releasing book during this time paled in comparison. My heart hurt for people dealing with the medical and financial ramifications.

The main thing I learned is that God is not surprised at the current state of our world. He is sovereign and still has a plan; He knew the book would be released in such a time as this. Rather than drop back and punt, I decided to pivot. God gave me a different, renewed vision of what a book release could look like in quarantine.

During that workshop last year, there was extensive talk about online book launches through various social media outlets. At the time, I thought, “Ehhh, maybe.” In April, when the book released, I thought, “Sign me up!”

Our publisher supplied us with spiffy social media memes and videos, along with a plan on how and when to share them. My co-author and I planned, filmed, and posted our own book release chat. I filmed and shared videos highlighting various stories from the book.

Holland and I realized that two more friends, Michelle Medlock-Adams and Jake McCandless (both of whom we met at BRMCWC), had books releasing the same day. I came up with the idea of hosting a “Book Release Pajama Party” through Facebook. Hey, we’re all living in our pajamas these days, so why not? It turned out to be a great time full of laughter, snacks (we all provided our own), and lively book discussion and readings. It was great fun, and something we likely would have never even thought about in normal times. I think we started a trend.

Releasing a book during a pandemic taught me the value of my “tribe.” My fellow writers, my friends, and my family have been extremely gracious and supportive—sharing information, hosting me and my co-author on blogs and podcasts, and sending messages of goodwill. God has shown Himself through the kindness of His people.

I leave you with two thoughts:

  1. Adventures in Fatherhood is available and would make a great Father’s Day gift, Mother’s Day gift, or Quarantine Boredom Buster. http://bit.ly/AdventuresInFatherhoodBook
  2. Look for my next book, Quarantine Conundrum: Releasing a Book During a Pandemic, coming soon.

That last one is just a joke. Sort of.

Carlton Hughes, represented by Cyle Young of Hartline Literary, wears many hats. By day, he is a professor of communication. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he serves as a children’s pastor. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer. Carlton is an empty-nesting dad and devoted husband who likes long walks on the beach, old sitcoms, and chocolate–all the chocolate. His work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Dating Game, The Wonders of Nature, Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and Everyday Grace for Men. His latest book is Adventures in Fatherhood, co-authored with Holland Webb.

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Let’s go to Camp

I never went to camp as a child. For a variety of reasons, it wasn’t my thing.

Even though I was fat, I was a very picky eater. I didn’t think the camp kitchen would serve french fries, Rice-A-Roni, and peanut butter (my most popular choices) at every meal. Also, when you’re a hefty kid and tend to be the last one chosen on any team, it’s hard to keep up with the physical activities and games. To this day, I don’t know how to swim, which posed another problem for camp.

Fast forward to later in life, and I served as a camp counselor at church camp for a few years when my sons were younger. I served in this capacity until the year I turned 41. That year, I was charged with supervising 12 very active boys with no assistant—24 hours a day for four days. I had an epiphany: I “aged out” of this type of work. I went back one more time to work in the camp store, but I suffered a terrible gout attack, presumably from the delicious institutional food, thus ending my camp experience.

Or so I thought. How does this discussion relate to writing? Hold on.

I have been attending two writers conferences—Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference (BRMCWC—they love consonants) and Kentucky Christian Writers Conference (KCWC—consonant lite)—for several years. While at BRMCWC last year, it hit me—writers conferences have served as my summer camp experience.

At summer camp, fast friendships develop over a short period of time. Need I say more? I have gained so many like-minded friends at writers conferences—too many to count, in fact. I love watching the relationships come together, with the “packs” of writers hanging out together in the dining room, in the coffee shop, and in the “dorm” lobby after hours. Close, lifelong bonds have been formed in those precious sites.

Summer camps generally feature enrichment activities for the campers, and, boy, do writers conferences fill that bill. In between the socializing, we do go to class every now and then to learn from the best. After all, that IS why we are there.

I will say that writers conferences top summer camp when it comes to the quality of the food, but meals are still communal activities. Meal times prove to be special times to bond, to network, and, if you’re at my table, to laugh over the silliest of things. I haven’t experienced a food fight at a writers event, but I have learned to never say never.

Considering all the similarities, I am ready for some camp time. I hope to see you at BRMCWC in May or KCWC in June, and, if there are physical activities or games, do my ego a favor and pick me first. Please?

Carlton Hughes wears many hats. By day, he’s a professor of communication at Southeast Kentucky Community and Technical College. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he does object lessons and songs with motions as Children’s Pastor of Lynch Church of God. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in numerous publications, including Chicken Soup for the Soul and several devotional books from Worthy Publishing—Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and the soon-to-be-released Everyday Grace for Men. Carlton and his wife Kathy have two college-age sons, Noah and Ethan. He is on the planning committee for Kentucky Christian Writers Conference and is a year-round volunteer for Operation Christmas child.

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Goals . . . We Have Goals

It is the dawn of a new year, even a new decade, and people are talking about goals. I guess “resolutions” are not mentioned any more, because they last until about January 15th and then are forgotten. “Goal” seems to be a better word, something to strive for over a longer period of time.

Of course, one of my yearly goals is to eat better and to lose weight. I have had varying levels of success with that one over the years, and this year is no different, considering all of the leftover holiday goodies in my kitchen cabinet. I’m doing okay right now, but the chocolate is calling my name.

Many of my friends are switching the focus to writing goals for the year. If I have seen one post on social media about writing goals, I have seen 20. Everyone is setting their goals, making their lists and checking them twice. (Yes, the Christmas stuff is still on my mind.)

What’s my writing goal for the year? I have put some thought into it, and here it is, an exclusive debut right here on A3. My writing goal for 2020 is . . . to write.

There, I said it.

It may seem overly simple, but, for me, just to put the rear in the chair and to write is what I need to do. Sure, it’s good to have goals of words per day or week, but I need to remind myself to write everyday, to establish the routine of regularly putting words on the page. It seems simple, but I work better with simple.

So avoid the chocolate and get that bottom in the chair. Let’s write!

Carlton Hughes wears many hats. By day, he’s a professor of communication at Southeast Kentucky Community and Technical College. On Wednesday evenings and Sunday mornings, he does object lessons and songs with motions as Children’s Pastor of Lynch Church of God. In his “spare time,” he is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in numerous publications, including Chicken Soup for the Soul and several devotional books from Worthy Publishing—Let the Earth Rejoice, Just Breathe, So God Made a Dog, and the soon-to-be-released Everyday Grace for Men. Carlton and his wife Kathy have two college-age sons, Noah and Ethan. He is on the planning committee for Kentucky Christian Writers Conference and is a year-round volunteer for Operation Christmas child.

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Polishing Gems by Sue Potts

(Editor’s Note: Sue Potts is our guest columnist this month, specially asked by Carlton Hughes.)

While on vacation in the Smoky Mountains, when my daughter was young, we stopped at a gem mine. We bought our bag of dirt and took it and a sifting screen to the trough of water. The dirt washed away from the sifter, leaving behind gems and small colored stones. My little girl was delighted with each sparkle in her sifter. We collected out gems wiped them off and put them in a pouch to carry them home. We didn’t find anything valuable, but it was a fun experience.