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Writing with a Disability (Different Ability)

Don’t Rush the Process

Earlier this month, my friend suffered a stroke while working. He struggled with the effects of the stroke on his body. After starting physical therapy, he was eager to return to work and his daily routines.

Since I’ve suffered both strokes and a traumatic brain injury (TBI), I decided to share my experience of life after a stroke. Some things may never return to normal and we need to accept our lives have changed.

  • Inpatient
  • Depressed
  • Struggle to focus

As hard as it is to believe, we need to understand there is a reason for the rehabilitation process. It is a time to test our abilities. It is a season to learn how our lives have changed. The hardest part is learning we cannot rush recovery; it takes time to gather and process the information.

It’s a Process

Let’s be honest, no one likes to wait, especially when it comes to life events. We set goals and make plans and hope to achieve them. We are taught that if we put in the work and believe, we can do anything.

And then we are off in a sprint towards our goals. This can be devastating for a person with a TBI or health issues because it puts us at a higher risk of injury. That is why we need to understand the recovery process is a grueling marathon, not a fast-paced sprint.

The rehabilitation process is a systematic way of assessing limitations and strengthening our areas of weakness. Skipping any step in the process will affect an individual negatively in the long run.

My accident humbled me and slowed my life and body down; I had to learn to listen to others who understood my brain injury better than I did. I also needed to trust others and the recovery process.

I learned to take health matters more seriously if I wanted my life to improve. It was clear to me that I needed to slow down to rest my body and my brain. This is also true for writers who are serious about pursuing a writing career.

The Writing Race

If you are like me, you like to be productive as a writer and you understand the need to be proactive as a writer. Isn’t that why so many of us set word count goals for each day?

Unfortunately, some writers focus too much on quantity rather than quality. As a freelancer, I sometimes think I can make more money if I can write more words. However, trying to get more words down quickly can have a negative impact if the quality of the words written is subpar.

FYI, I write using speech dictation software and can write a lot of words in a short amount of time, but my words have to work—they need to be quality content. Clients and their audiences don’t like poor quality or filler words. If our words lack power or influence, then they are useless.

I can also make hasty mistakes by writing quickly and for a perfectionist like myself; careless mistakes are like salt in the wound on top of poor-quality content.  As writers, we cannot rush the writing process or the publication process. Below are some tips to navigate your writing process.

  1. Identify the next step: don’t attempt everything at once.
  2. Give that next step your full attention.
  3. Recognize when it’s good enough.
  4. Take breaks.
  5. Edit later.

I was taught to be professional in my writing at all times. Nothing says amateur like rushing the writing process. Professionals learn the craft and hone their skills. It doesn’t matter if we meet our word count if my words don’t make sense. One of my life hacks is to focus on quality more than quantity.

Quality

if you have ever suffered a health issue or near-death experience, you’ve heard the doctors discuss the “Quality of life” implications and effects that follow life-changing events. I can attest that surviving an accident isn’t always positive if it severely hinders one’s quality of life.

TBI and stroke survivors quickly understand their lives have been changed forever and they must learn to focus on a new quality of life. I will be blunt; my standard of life is not like most people who take simple things for granted.

Many people focus too much on big accomplishments and temporary happiness. The quality of life for a disabled person may be different but is still a valuable life. I try not to focus too much on what I do or don’t have, because I almost lost it all.

  • Health
  • Faith
  • Possessions

This month my friend, who had an epileptic family member (whom I mentioned last month), had another family member diagnosed with brain cancer. This diagnosis came while the family was at the hospital together with the aforementioned family member.

She was so concerned about getting one family back to normal life, that she didn’t expect another to have health issues. Now her doctors are assessing the quality of life for yet another family member after trying to rush through the recovery of another.

Have you learned not rush the process?

Martin Johnson

Martin Johnson survived a severe car accident with a (T.B.I.) Traumatic brain injury which left him legally blind and partially paralyzed on the left side. He is an award-winning Christian screenwriter who has recently finished his first Christian nonfiction book. Martin has spent the last nine years volunteering as an ambassador and promoter for Promise Keepers ministries. While speaking to local men’s ministries he shares his testimony. He explains The Jesus Paradigm and how following Jesus changes what matters most in our lives. Martin lives in a Georgia and connects with readers at MartinThomasJohnson.com  and on Twitter at mtjohnson51.

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Writing with a Disability (Different Ability)

enjoy it!

Being disabled causes one to find new sources of enjoyment. The things I used to enjoy before my accident, I can no longer do without strenuous effort, for that reason I no longer play video games or the guitar.

At first, I tried to force my hands to do what I could no longer do, when it started to take more effort to do, it was no longer enjoyable. I got to the point where I had to decide whether to keep looking back or press forward.       

I began to focus on what I could do instead of what I couldn’t do. I started learning new things or doing things I hadn’t done in decades. The disabled life makes one appreciate the little things in life. Things most people take for granted. Things I never thought I would enjoy again.

  • Walking is a basic function not everyone can enjoy.
  • Feeding myself, not depending on others to help me.
  • Tying my shoes.
  • Going to the restroom on my own.

As simple as these may seem to most people, many disabled persons don’t get to enjoy doing because of physical or mental inabilities.

When you lose the ability to do what others do naturally, it can cause you to become depressed. It will make you want to give up.

If you’ve been aspiring to be a writer for any amount of time, perhaps you’ve become depressed as you’ve seen others have success in what you struggle to do yourself. Sometimes the struggles of the writing life can take the enjoyment away. That’s why writers must learn to enjoy the journey and not focus as much on the destination!

Enjoy It!

It may be cliché, but I believe it is true. “As long as you enjoy your job, you’ll never work a day in your life!” It is human nature to seek enjoyment, and it is natural to seek the path of least resistance.

I don’t want to sugarcoat the writing life, but as a reminder that the writing life is hard, living with a disability is hard—an easy path doesn’t necessarily mean success. It’s what we learn on the journey and the truth is we learn more from hardship.

Keep in mind, few writers can make a living as a writer full-time, most writers have side jobs and other sources of income: a day job, teaching, speaking, etc.

Yet, thousands of people aspire to become writers every day. Most of us don’t write for money, we write for the art and enjoyment of the craft. If we break through the barriers one day great, regardless, we enjoy the creative process! Below is a list of other reasons writers keep writing.

  1. The best way to communicate is by speaking. The second-best way is to write.
  2. Writing helps see your thoughts clearly.
  3. It is a good practice to look back on how your perspectives have changed.
  4. Having a place to share your ideas helps a community to grow.
  5. Writing is a fun pass time.
  6. You can write your thoughts and make an impact.
  7. You can voice concerns for a cause through your writing.
  8. For you to write, you will start reading and taking more life experiences.
  9. Writing helps build a relationship in any community.
  10.  I love writing.

Recently, on a brain injury podcast I follow, a doctor explained how muscle memory is developed and works. The “memory” isn’t stored in the muscle but is a habit that is formed in the Basal Ganglia (operates in the frontal region of the brain), sort of like an algorithm that has been programmed into the brain by repeating a process.

           So, the more we write and flex those creative muscles, the more we program our brains to write and the process will become involuntary, less strenuous. Maybe that’s when we really start to enjoy the writing process, instead of the destination of “success”!

           Once again, the writing life is hard and few find financial success in it. So, if you’re feeling burnt out, perhaps you should just learn to enjoy the art of writing, instead of focusing on writing success. We can always write, even if we aren’t being compensated for it. Yes, the struggle is real!

The Struggle Is Real!

After living with a disability for almost 26 years and pursuing publishing for a decade, I have learned the hard truth that life is full of struggles, but I keep pressing on. Not to become rich and famous, but because I enjoy the craft and life.

I’ve learned that it’s the simple things in life that make it enjoyable and worth the struggle. Each path is different and difficult in its own right; however, if we learn to grow on the journey, the struggle is worth it. Below are a few inspirational quotes from the disabled community to help inspire you on your writing journey.

  • “However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.” – Stephen Hawking
  • It’s not our disabilities, it’s our abilities that count.” – Chris Burke
  • Know me for my abilities, not my disability.” –Robert M. Hensel
  • God always seems bigger to those who need him most. And suffering is the tool he uses to help us need him more.” – Joni Eareckson Tada

I have personally learned over the years that struggles in life aren’t meant to stop us, but help makes us stronger along the journey to where we are headed. Just because I can no longer do what I used to do doesn’t mean I cannot excel at doing new things. We don’t have to do big things in life to be successful, it’s appreciating the little things that helps us enjoy it!

Martin Johnson

Martin Johnson survived a severe car accident with a (T.B.I.) Traumatic brain injury which left him legally blind and partially paralyzed on the left side. He is an award-winning Christian screenwriter who has recently finished his first Christian nonfiction book. Martin has spent the last nine years volunteering as an ambassador and promoter for Promise Keepers ministries. While speaking to local men’s ministries he shares his testimony. He explains The Jesus Paradigm and how following Jesus changes what matters most in our lives. Martin lives in a Georgia and connects with readers at MartinThomasJonhson.com  and on Twitter at mtjohnson51.