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Embrace the Wait

Survival Tips for the Waiting Part of Writing Tip #19 – Remain teachable

My dear Mother-In-Law is ninety years old, but she’s not like any senior citizen you’ve ever met. Power suits, three-inch heels, bright red fingernails, and crimson lipstick are her trademarks. She’s a celebrity in her neck of the woods, not only because of her dynamic style and outgoing personality, but because she’s spent her whole life caring for others. Just a few years ago she retired from running a non-profit organization and is still active today as a representative of the Texas Silver-Haired Legislature. Yes, at age ninety!

I’ve often pondered the secret to my MIL’s success. The answer hit me one day as I witnessed her interaction with my fifteen-year-old daughter. My daughter was trying to teach her the clapping game Miss Mary Mack. Time after time again my MIL would get half way through the rhyme and accidentally clap left when she was supposed to clap right. But did she quit? Never. She laughed at herself while my daughter giggled with her, then they would begin the game again. She was teachable. Yes, at age ninety!

Teachability is one of the most valuable tools in any successful writer’s tool chest. Most of us begin the writing journey with tons of it, but as legendary basketball coach John Wooden states it: “It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.”

Here are five probing questions to keep us on the path toward teachability:

  • Am I willing to ask a question even if I’m afraid they will expose my ignorance?
  • When my writing is critiqued do I listen openly for truth or do I become defensive?
  • Am I willing to learn from a writer with less experience or fewer credentials than me?
  • Do I remain open-minded about doing things differently than I’ve done them before?
  • How do I handle failure? Do I consider it an opportunity to learn?

Scripture: Proverbs 9:9, Proverbs 15:32, Proverbs 1:5, Proverbs 19:20

Fun Fact or Helpful Resource:
If you’d like to catch a glimpse of my amazing Mom-In-Law in action here’s the link to a news story from a few years back.

Annette Marie Griffin is a award-winning writer who speaks at local women’s group meetings and women’s retreats on the topic of biblical womanhood and finding our identity in Christ. She is the Operations and Events Coordinator at a private school for special needs students and is the editor of their quarterly newsletter. She has written custom curriculum for women’s retreats and children’s church curriculum for Gateway Church in San Antonio, Texas where she served as Children’s Ministry Director and Family Program Director for over twenty years. She and her husband John have five amazing children and two adorable grands. She’s a member of Word Weavers International, ACFW, SCBWI, and serves on the Board of Directors for The Creative Writing Institute.

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Writers Chat

Writers Chat Recap for September Part 2

Writers Chat, hosted by Jean Wise, Johnnie Alexander, and Bethany Jett, is the show where we talk about all things writing, by writers and for writers!

“Because talking about writing is more fun than actually doing it.”

The Art of Listening For Writers with Cherrilynn Bisbano

We all know what it is like to talk to someone and based on their body language we know they aren’t listening at all. In this week’s episode Cherrilynn shares with how we can improve our skills as reflective listeners. She discusses what our eye contact, micro expressions, and body language says to the person speaking. 

Watch the September 10th replay

For more tips and resources, see this week’s Show Notes and Live Discussion.

Bio

Cherrilynn Bisbano is the owner of The Write Proposal, the managing editor for Almost an Author, and is an experienced speaker and teacher. She has written articles for several magazines and was a contributor to many books like Chicken Soup for the Soul. She loves Christ, chocolate, and cats.

Chicken Soup for the Soul Updates with Tracy Crump

Tracy has contributed 22 stories and is a voice of experience when it comes to writing for Chicken Soup for the Soul. If you have ever thought of submitting a story to them, this is the episode for you. Tracy shares her Top Five Tips for entering a story to this popular publication, for example, you need a powerful conclusion with a lesson learned, a positive change, or a payoff. Maybe Chicken Soup for the Soul is the right place for your stories.        

Watch the September 17th replay.   

For more information and Tracy’s Top 5 Tips, check out this week’s Show Notes and Live Discussion.

Bio

Tracy Crump has written 22 stories for Chicken Soup for the Soul, and articles and devotions for a few other magazines like Focus on the Family, ParentLife, and Mature Living. Her course in Serious Writer Academy on writing for Chicken Soup is quite popular. Her most important job is being Grandma to the world’s most adorable grandchildren. You can contact Tracy at www.TracyCrump.com or www.WriteLifeWorkshops.com

Marketing Strategies with Bethany Jett

Does marketing trip you up? In this episode, Bethany is joined by surprise co-host Michelle Medlock Adams to lay out smooth ideas for marketing. They give tailored advice to Dory Oda, Josephine Massaro, and Amanda Ellis Flinn in this jam packed strategy session. Even though this strategy session was geared to these three women, there are numerous takeaways that are sure to get your marketing juices flowing.

Watch the September 24th replay

For more tips and resources, check out this week’s Show Notes and Live Discussion.

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Writers Chat is hosted live each Tuesday for an hour starting at 10 AM CT / 11 AM ET on Zoom. Here’s the permanent Zoom room link

Participants mute their audio and video during the filming then we open up the room for anyone who wishes to participate with our guests. The “After Party” is fifteen-minutes of off-the-record sharing and conversation.

Additionally, you can grow your network and add to the conversation by joining our Writers Chat Facebook Group.

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Writer Encouragement

Listening to Writing Mentors

Writers who listen are writers who learn. If we’re so busy pitching our ideas and promoting our writing agenda, we’ll turn into writers without a clue. And likely, writers without a contract for publication.

Years ago, I was a nursing student and one of my classes was entitled “Therapeutic Conversation.”

The title sounded ridiculous but it was anything but that. It taught me how to really listen to what a patient says, as well as observe their body language and facial expressions. The class coached us in how to rephrase what the person said back to them to be certain we understood their meaning. It forced us to listen, rather than speak all the time.

The biggest thing I learned from that class was how much I talk. That was humbling. I like hearing what I have to say, it seems. But I quickly was educated in the importance of really listening to my patients so I could be a better caregiver of their needs.

I also realized that this can carry over into every area of my life to improve communication with family and friends. It can also carry over into communication with other writers and editors, publishers and agents.

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Often I hear other writers express concern for what they will say at writer’s conferences, especially if it’s there first conference. If they ask me for advice, I encourage them to keep their introductions simple, their words few and their ears OPEN.

It seems we live in a society of talkers. National news interviews and reality TV shows are flooded with talk—and plenty of it. People are talking over people, expressing their thoughts and ideas without a concern for what the other person is trying to say. It gets downright annoying and you come away thinking, did anything get resolved? Did anyone learn anything?

That’s how I perceive some writers I’ve observed who attend sessions with potential mentors—editors and more experienced writers. These fledgling writers talk much, listen little—and already have all the answers. Or so they think.

The way to a potential relationship with an editor or publisher is to listen and learn. Ask questions but hear the answers. In this world of chatter, it can be hard to focus. But for the serious writer seeking publication, wisdom is in the words of the more experienced. I’d encourage some therapeutic listening.

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