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Writing Romance

REALISTICALLY RELATABLE

Making your hero and heroine relatable is key to creating characters your readers will care about, will laugh with, and will cry over. Your protagonists must also care about each other. They must have enough in common so that their attraction makes sense, but they also must have enough differences to create conflict.

How do we create characters who leap off the page and into our readers’ hearts?

Characters need to have:

  • Relatability. Make them human, not perfect. Give them flaws, real character flaws, not just physical imperfections. I once edited a book by a man whose heroine was perfect. I told him she needed to have a flaw. “She does,” he assured me. “She has a limp.” A limp is not a flaw, it’s an imperfection. Being quick to judge is a flaw. Lying about inconsequential matters is a flaw. An inability to apologize is a flaw.
  • Strong personalities. I’m a fairly passive introvert and my first drafts heroines are very much like me. In other words: boring. It’s in the rewrite that I figure out their personality and give them some sass and spunk. I’m in the process of doing that with my work-in-progress’s heroine. She’s still way too passive, but she’s getting there. I’ll often think of something outrageous that I would never do and force my heroine to do that. I’ve had characters go bungee jumping, sing karaoke, and appear on a reality television show.  
  • Conflict. Both within themselves and with each other. In my work-in-progress I’m pairing a hero with a strong sense of justice and honesty with a heroine who is intent on helping someone, but it means not telling the full truth. Instant conflict!
  • Attraction. They need to have chemistry, which is easy to see, but hard to write and describe. I guess I’m a prude, because physical attraction is the hardest thing for me to write. Kissing scenes about kill me. I’m beyond grateful I don’t write sex scenes. But showing physical attraction between your protagonists is crucial to getting your readers to cheer them on to their happily ever after.
  • Obstacles. Kind of like Conflict, but bigger, harder, more intense. Always be thinking, What can happen to keep this character from reaching his/her goal? What can I throw at them or put in their way? It can be anything from weather to mechanical to physical/geographical distance to family or work responsibilities to employer policies to those pesky personality differences.
  • Authenticity. Nothing makes a reader lose interest in a book quicker than a character who does something unrealistic. I once read a “romance” where the hero gave the heroine not one clue that he was interested in a relationship. I was convinced that at the end, he’d give her an incredulous look and say, “Where did you get the idea I liked you, much less that we were dating?” and she would realize she’d made up the whole relationship in her head. Alas, he apologized for all the ways he’d failed her and promised to be a better boyfriend in the future. I instantly apologized to my heart for making it pump all the hours I’d wasted reading a book with zero plausibility.

Writing realistic and relatable characters is a skill worth learning. It’s the secret sauce that will turn your stories from good to can’t-put-down-able.

Carrie Padgett lives in Central California, close to Yosemite, but far from Hollywood, the beach, and the Golden Gate Bridge. She believes in faith, families, fun, and happily ever afters. She writes contemporary fiction with romance. She recently signed a contract with Sunrise Publishing to co-write a romance novel with New York Times bestselling author Rachel Hauck that will be published in 2022. Carrie and her husband live in the country with their high-maintenance cat and laid-back dog, within driving distance of their six grandchildren.

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Romancing Your Story

Romancing Your Genre

              In today’s world of literature, no matter what genre you read, you are likely to come across romance. I read a broad range of genres: historical and contemporary romance, fantasy, YA, mysteries, crime novels—pretty much everything except science-fiction, horror, and erotica. I don’t mind a steamy scene, but don’t give me details. In all of the genres I read, most of the books in those genres include some romance, whether it be the main story line, a single scene between minor characters, or just a hint of attraction between characters.

              What does this mean for writers? It can mean a couple things: 1) you can include a romance in whatever genre you are writing, if you choose to; 2) adding a romance to your genre may appeal to and attract a larger audience.

              Everyone has a need to be loved. Maybe that’s why it’s so popular to include some type of romance in a novel of any genre. I recently read a murder mystery that was written like an old classic, but the detective found the woman, who received a threat against her life, attractive. He thought about the possibility of a date with her. That was the extent of the “romance” in that book, but it still offered a taste of romance for the reader.

              In the first book of a fantasy series I read, there was no romance. In the second book, the protagonist’s romantic interest is introduced, but the romance doesn’t really become a big part of the story until the third book. Even then, it’s not the main story line. It never really becomes the main story line throughout the four books in the series. Even in the sequel, where they finally are able to marry, there are many other things they must experience and deal with before they can marry near the end of the sequel.

              Through these examples, you can see that you don’t have to be an experienced or successful romance writer to add a bit of romance to whatever genre you write. Simply add some attraction, or make the romance a secondary story line. If you want more romance, read a romance book or two, or talk to a romance writer.

              Romance is often the beginning of love and everyone wants to be loved. Therefore, no matter what genre you write, you can include a little bit of love. It will not detract from your story. It will add something to your story, and may even attract more readers to your books.

Kelly F. Barr lives in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania. She is married and has three sons. She writes historical romance. She has also been a blogger for ten years, and every Friday, you can find her Flash Fiction stories posted for your reading pleasure. She loves her family, including the family dog, books, walks, and chai lattes.

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