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Take a Break

I didn’t know how much I needed a break until I grew grumpy. My usual ability to cope was stretched as taught as a rubber band holding too many papers. Exhaustion overwhelmed me at times. Then I got sick with bronchitis. In the summertime.

When you are overwhelmed with life, not only is it difficult to write your stories but sickness can rear its ugly head at any time of the year.

I stopped and took inventory of my past several months. It was a bit on the scary side: My husband’s stroke and months of rehab, my granddaughter’s diagnosis of cancer in her foot, my sister’s illness, moving out of state … The stressors were numerous and more than just a little daunting.

While things have improved for the most part, there are residual difficulties such as my granddaughter needing a prosthesis for her foot amputation and my husband still dealing with memory issues. I am struggling with now being the sole driver in our empty nest household. It’s not a situation I ever imagined.

In the midst of all this anxiety, my older son extended an invitation to come and stay for a week. I would help them out with childcare for the triplets while their mom and dad worked. Although some might see that as more work for me, it has been a refresher visiting with my out-of-state grands and my son and DIL who I rarely see. While I am not sitting doing nothing, it is a change from my normal and sometimes angst-filled routines. It has been a gift from the Lord through my son.

I could have found excuses not to go on this respite but I knew I needed it. Anyone who carries the load at home needs it for peace and renewal before the rubber band of anxiety snaps from the pressure.

So I set up everything for my husband to help him manage on his own. Our younger son and my husband’s sister are nearby in case of emergency. Then I boarded the flight, knowing this was going to be the refreshment for my soul and body that I needed.

It is so easy to be overwhelmed by our responsibilities that we often forget to take care of our own needs. It is a choice. We can make ourselves indispensable in our stress, or we can find coverage for all the needs around us. We all need to take a healthy break at times.

With a clearer head and renewed enthusiasm, I look forward to facing the blank Word doc again, and creating my next novel. After this rest.

Then I can happily … carry on.

Elaine Marie Cooper has two historical fiction books that recently released: War’s Respite (Prequel novella) and Love’s Kindling. Love’s Kindling is available in both e-book and paperback. They are the first two books in the Dawn of America Series set in Revolutionary War Connecticut. Cooper is the award-winning author of Fields of the Fatherless and Bethany’s Calendar. Her 2016 release (Saratoga Letters) was finalist in Historical Romance in both the Selah Awards and Next Generation Indie Book Awards. She penned the three-book Deer Run Saga and has been published in numerous magazines and anthologies. Scarred Vessels, a novel about black soldiers in the American Revolution, will release in 2020. You can visit her website/ blog at www.elainemariecooper.com

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Writing with a Disability (Different Ability)

Keep It Going

Last month I shared I was emotionally struggling with writing; I hope my post encouraged others to keep pressing on.

Since it’s the beginning of the year and everyone is focusing on health goals after the holidays, I want to address how it affects the writing community: We need to be physically healthy to do what we do.

A drained body can suck the creativity out of us as easily as a rejection letter. Living with a traumatic brain injury shapes every facet of my life, from what I eat and drink to how and when I sleep.

  • Too much caffeine can overload my nervous system and cause a stroke or I may become dehydrated and have seizures.
  • Not enough sleep leaves me foggy or I can possibly blackout.

One of the biggest risks for TBI survivors is atrophy.  This is a wasting away of a body part or tissue – it results from lack of use or movement due to complications of a brain injury.

For me, the entire left side of my body is numb and has a lack of sensation. I’ve lost all fine-tuned motor skills in my left hand. Perhaps you’ve noticed stroke survivors not using limbs or leaning to one side. That is because part of the brain has been affected, which in turn affects that side or limb.

This is where Newton’s law of inertia comes into play. The basic idea is objects and people will stay at rest until something or someone causes movement and as long as there’s movement the item or person will keep moving.

Keep it going!

Now that the holidays are over and we are trying to stir from our winter slumber, even writing can seem problematic, no matter how disciplined we are in the craft.

We’ve tried to write every day. But the beginning of the year is an uphill battle. So let’s try applying some of the counter tactics to fight atrophy in our writing lives.

  1. Exercise regularly: walking is okay, but cardio is better. Cardiovascular exercise works our heart and makes it stronger for when we’re not able to work out or take a break from our computers.
  2. Schedule breaks to rest your brain (literally) and spur creativity: I have a daybed in my home office so I can lie down when I can’t focus on my writing. I also try to do physical activities after I eat. This helps to keep my body from storing food as fat and helps it break food down for energy.
  3. Never eat at your computer: we’ll be tempted to sit long periods of time mindlessly eating and racking up calories.
  4. Never skip meals: coffee is a quick fix, not the long-term nourishment our bodies and minds need.
  5. Drink plenty of water: coffee does not count; it actually counters the benefits of water since it is a diuretic; water helps nourish our brains and hydrates our organs. Imagine water being the conduit that helps move our creativity. I shoot for a minimum of 1 gallon/day.
  6. Get a good office chair with support: We sit a lot and need good posture.

One of the first lessons I learned through the Christian Writers Guild was to invest in a good desk and chair. I was taught that “carpal tunnel syndrome is the bane of writers.”[i] 

And “Keep the  90-90-90 rule: keep your elbows, hips, and knees at 90° angles.” [ii]

The right stuff!

At some point this year it will be time for me to once again purchase an office chair.  I decided to do some research on what to look for in an ideal office chair for writers. Below are a few factors to consider for committing to a key the only tool writers physically depend on to be productive.

  • Seat height: an office chair should be easily adjustable, pneumatic levers are the easiest. Height ranges from 16 to 21 inches work for most people. You should be able to have both feet flat on the floor with your thighs horizontal and your arms even with the height of the desk, without bending over.
  • Seat width and depth: you should have enough width and depth to support you comfortably, typically 17 to 20 inches wide.
  • Lumbar support: lower back support is key to optimal spine support and keeps it from curving.
  • Backrest: 12 to 19 inches and also adjustable.
  • Seat material: there should be enough padding to keep you comfortable during long periods of sitting. Cloth fabric that breathes is better than hard surfaces.
  • Adjustable armrests: your arms should be able to rest comfortably with your shoulders relaxed.
  • Swivel: I used to consider this a luxury, but swivel chairs allow users more freedom in moving without having to strain to reach high areas of a work desk.

And moving is the name of the game for staying healthy and keeping our hearts strong. During my research for this article, I discovered a new product endorsed by the Mayo Clinic to help sedative workers be more active while at work. Both Apple and Orbitz have utilized the HOVR system in their offices.

I am planning on purchasing the product this year myself as I spend more time working from home and doing what I enjoy, hopefully, this should help keep it going.

[i] Jenkins, Jerry Writing Essentials (2010) p 6.

[ii] Jenkins, Jerry Writing Essentials (2010) p 6.

Martin Johnson survived a severe car accident with a (T.B.I.) Truamatic brain injury which left him legally blind and partially paralyzed on the left side. He is an award-winning Christian screenwriter who has recently finished his first Christian nonfiction book. Martin has spent the last nine years volunteering as an ambassador and promoter for Promise Keepers ministries. While speaking to local men’s ministries he shares his testimony. He explains The Jesus Paradigm and how following Jesus changes what matters most in our lives. Martin lives in a Georgia and connects with readers at Spiritual Perspectives of Da Single Guy and on Twitter at mtjohnson51.

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“Tooth” Be Told

(This week my husband lost a crown while eating a piece of licorice—that in itself is probably worth a post of its own—so now he begins the whole process of getting it replaced. His dilemma reminded me of my own experience several years back.  Here’s a piece on what I leanrned.)
 This morning I’m having the first step done in repairing my cracked tooth. To be very honest, I’m not excited about sitting in the dentist chair for an hour and a half. I’m really quite anxious. I lost some sleep over it last night. I’m just not a big fan of pain and even less of a fan of the unknown. In the parlance of the day: I’m a wuss.

As I wrote the preceding paragraph, I ran my tongue over the broken tooth. I cracked this tooth on April 1, nearly three months ago. Actually, I think the tooth had been cracked for six years and the piece just finally gave way. In spring of 2004 I had a cavity replaced and from that point until three months ago I had pain on that side of my mouth whenever I chewed. I think that dentist cracked the tooth when she replaced the filling and I believe that because once that piece gave way, I’ve had no pain on that side and I have no trouble biting or chewing there.

Another thing I became aware of as I ran my tongue over the tooth that is now half gone is that I’ve gotten used to this new shape of my tooth. So, if there’s no pain and I’m used to the odd shape and feel, why go through all the pain to “fix” it? Pondering that made me realize that I do that with a lot of things in my life. I accept less than perfect to avoid the pain of correction. I put up with the difficult rather than addressing the problem and avoiding the conflict. I’m so used to what’s missing it seems natural.

I know that the obvious answer is to take care of this tooth now and avoid larger issues later. Life is that way. Putting off or ignoring what needs to be done doesn’t make sense. In the Bible, James even says that to know what we should do and not do it is sin. So the sin of omission isn’t just about our dealings with others, it’s also how we deal with ourselves, our bodies. Maybe Fram (the auto parts distributors) had the right idea with their motto: Pay me now, or pay me later.

So I will sit in the dentist’s chair for an hour and a half today and again three weeks later. Hopefully, I will save the tooth and avert further problems in the future. I think I’m worth that. Perhaps that’s actually been the real missing piece. It is time to get that fixed.

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Fill ‘Er Up

A pastor friend of mine had come through a really rough stretch and was reexamining his call. A counselor shared a powerful image with him. She asked if he had ever flown on a commercial plane. He had. She went on to remind him of the spiel the fly attendants go through about the airplane. The point of her story was the part of the spiel where the oxygen mask falls from the ceiling.

WP airplane air mask

Do you remember what they tell the passengers? It goes like this: Secure your own mask before helping others.

Truth be told: we’re not much good to others if we don’t take care of ourselves.

Recently I saw meme floating around on Facebook. I made one like it for myself using one of the mugs I typically use in my office:

empty cup.jpg

This is such a simple message, but we do a great job of ‘boogering’ it up.

We wonder why we have nothing to write about. We blame the absence of our muse. Grouse about writer’s block. When the truth is we’ve done little to fill our spiritual, emotional, and physical cup.

God’s promise is that our cup will be overflowing. You’ll find that in Psalm 23:5.

filling cup

So what can we do to make sure our cup is full?

~Spend regular time mining in the Word.

Living on 30 second devotions is like trying to exist on fast food. Definitely not in our best interest long term.

~Spend time getting to know the One whose message you hope to convey.

Get beyond the introduction and figure out what He’s all about.

~Associate with others whose cups are overflowing and then find those whose cups are empty and bring them along.

And that’s just a few for starters. Make your own list…and do it!

I searched and read several articles and scrolled through a Google feed about how long a person can live without water. The consensus was there’s no way to generalize or quantify given the vast differences in our physical make up, but most “experts” agree a person will only last few days.

Why would we choose to test the evidence? Why would we choose to pour from an empty cup?

We are not much good to others, and neither is our writing, if we’re not taking care of ourselves.

Take time. Make time. Fill up!

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