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My Writing Journey

My Definition of Success

All too often we’re shallow enough to think the prize is worth the journey. Really it’s the journey that’s the prize.

When I was little my dream fit in three words: publish a book.

I didn’t care about sales and didn’t even know about the Times list. All I wanted was to see my book on a store shelf.

Now I’ve written three books, signed with an agent, and I’m waiting to hear if and when my books will hit stores.

But the moment I signed an agent contract wasn’t the moment I found success.

Signing my first book deal won’t be that moment either.

There’s a misconception that success equals sales stats and how many digits are on an advance check. Those are extremely important. Publishing is a business after all! However, they aren’t how I define my success as a writer.

Wanting to see my book on a shelf is what started my journey, but I’ve found the journey is actually more important than whatever success I may find at the end.

In college writing was the last job I wanted because I believed I was way too extroverted for it. Thankfully, an author sat me down and explained the marketing and publicity side of writing and I realized writing isn’t just about writing.

I couldn’t be a writer if I didn’t live life to the fullest because writing is about sharing truth of experience.

It’s giving words to the feelings of others.

It’s a medium to use when one physical person has a message that needs to reach thousands and millions and billions of others. I write because I want to communicate to everyone and writing is one way to do that most effectively.

As I’ve progressed from a third grader penciling sentences on wide-rule paper to a post-graduate typing thousands of words on my Mac, I’ve learned writing isn’t about writing.

Writing is about communication.

I graduated college last December with a degree in Strategic Communications. I had no idea one year later I’d be signed with an agent and already hearing positive feedback from multiple publishing houses.

At heart, I’m a communicator. At heart, I just really love people. And at the core of what I do, the goal isn’t to just “get published” anymore.

The goal is to communicate truth – through living, through interpersonal interactions, through writing. That’s why success isn’t a once-in-a-lifetime book deal (however awesome that would be!).

Writing is so much more than words. Success is so much more than numbers.

Writing is a venue where words are necessary to communicate powerfully and effectively with the masses.

When I get my first book deal I’ll be thrilled, no question about that! But success isn’t signing my name on my piece of paper.

Success is the growth I’ll learn through the process of getting there.

Here’s to the journey!

Sarah Rexford is a Marketing Content Writer, working with brands to grow their audience reach. She studied Strategic Communications at Cornerstone University and focused on writing during her time there, completing two full-length manuscripts while a full-time student. Currently she trains under best-selling author Jerry Jenkins in his Your Novel Blueprint course and is actively seeking publication for two books.

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Literary Women in Histor

Laura Ingalls Wilder: Truth for the Time

Have you heard the latest outrage in the world of books and publishing?

Beloved children’s author, Laura Ingalls Wilder—turns out she’s something of a racist. Strange but true. The Association for Library Service to Children (ALSC) has deemed it to be so, in keeping with the current popular mantra that pretty much everyone these days is racist if they hold fast to traditional American values.

 Who knew!

The book award that the ALSC created over 60 years ago bearing Mrs. Wilder’s name no longer can because a scant handful of references in her Little House books have been tagged as racist towards certain minorities she came in contact with as a little girl in the 1880s.

Formerly hailed as a great classic of children’s literature, celebrating faith, family, hard work, perseverance, and American patriotism, parents are being warned against them. Her name is blackened. The award is stripped from her. And all because she told the truth as she experienced it. She wrote an historical fiction memoir based upon firsthand accounts of a major part of American history from the perspective of a child living through it. Why is that wrong?

The Laura Ingalls Wilder Home Association wonders about that, too.

Statement from the Laura Ingalls Wilder Home Association—Office of the Director:

The Laura Ingalls Wilder Home Association wishes to voice its disappointment in the recent action of the Association for Library Service to Children (ALSC). Many believe that Mrs. Wilder’s famous “Little House” books are American treasures and she should be honored as their author.

Mrs. Wilder believed her books to be historically accurate and reflect American life during the Western Movement. However difficult it may be to agree with social mores within these years, the fact remains that was a different time and what was accepted then would not be today. Mrs. Wilder was writing a historical account of her childhood to inform today’s children how proud they may be in their heritage and their nation.

Hmmm. Being proud of one’s heritage and nation. Not real popular these days in some media streams. What crazy times we live in where being proud of our heritage and nation is controversial.

But, true to the time in which she lived, Laura referred to Native Americans as Indians. Most historical fiction books of the time do. Even the Indians called themselves Indians. There is also some concern over her unfiltered childlike reaction at seeing a black person for the first time. Not quite the way we’re supposed to be speaking these days.

And therein lies the problem.

Do you write historical fiction? Do you write personal memoir or autobiography? Are you true to the time you are writing about? Or, do you fear negative repercussions if you don’t manipulate historical norms to fit contemporary trends in thought, word, and deed?

I’ve read all nine of the Little House books and loved every one. Mrs. Wilder painted sticky images in my mind of bygone times with precise details. Even though it has been many years since reading them, there are passages that left an impression so deep, I can still recall them, fascinated at how my imagination stirred with a desire to learn more about history.

I enjoyed teaching Little House in the Big Woods to a homeschool group a few years ago, leading young hearts and minds through some favorite passages: the maple syrup chapter, Pa’s bear story, Mary’s birthday, and the fact that Laura could name every tree and plant that grew in and around her home as a very little child, as though they were dear friends. What a wondrous childhood filled with worthy life lessons and experiences modern children rarely enjoy amid all the hyper distractions of today.

Times have changed. I am heartily sorry that those seeking to re-write history have chosen such a literary icon as Laura Ingalls Wilder to pick on.

In the mid-20th century, and for decades later, librarians lauded the works of Laura Ingalls Wilder for her honest storytelling of an American family living through the highs and lows of a defining moment in our national history, unfiltered by a political agenda. Not so much anymore. These days, one candid remark on social media can cost a person their livelihood and open their life to unforgiving abuse. It is a toxic environment for writers seeking to speak truth.

As Christians, publishing an unpopular message or controversial fictional story in an historical setting, we should not allow ourselves to be bullied into writing politically correct words that are untrue to ourselves and history. The Word of God should be the only arbiter of truth and the plumbline standard for our words. Some may take offense. Some may twist our meaning and motivation out of proportion, accusing us of unjustified things. If so, we are in good company. With the likes of Jesus.

And our own Laura Ingalls Wilder, it would seem.

Next month, I continue musing on this topic and share some words of wisdom from Laura’s pen to encourage the Christian writer of today.

 Journal Prompt: How true to yourself are you when writing in your journal? Is it messy? Is it whitewashed? In your historical fiction, are you bullied by contemporary politically correct culture that often skews the lens through which you experienced something in order to satisfy a trendy group-think? In essence, re-writing history? Where have you seen this type of manipulation in historical fiction? In memoir? In some contemporary biblical narratives?

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Writer-speaker, Kathryn Ross, ignites a love of literature and learning through Pageant Wagon Publishing. She writes and publishes homeschool enrichment and Christian living books for home, church, and school. In addition, she shepherds writers through the steps book development and production. Her passion to equip women and families in developing a Family Literacy Lifestyle, produces readers and thinkers who can engage the world from a biblical worldview. She blogs and podcasts at TheWritersReverie.com and PageantWagonPublishing.com. Connect with Miss Kathy on Facebook.

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Write for His Glory

The Journey From “I Can’t” to “I Will”

The journey from “I can’t” to “I will” starts with brutal honesty.

“I can’t give up my coffee.”

“I can’t give up my bedtime snack.”

“I can’t ______________.”

These responses are often heard when someone is instructed to give up certain things so they can become more healthy. Sometimes it’s a doctor, sometimes a friend who has achieved success. Either way, the person starts out defeated by a belief that they are a victim to some unseen force that is stopping them from making the right choices.

I’ve often been like that toward God with my writing.

“I can’t write every day, I don’t have time.”

“I can’t follow a schedule, I’m too unstructured.”

“I can’t do this, I don’t know how and it’s too hard.”

It’s easy to say “I can’t” and take on that victim mindset. But what I’ve really said is…

“I won’t take something else out of my day to make time to write.”

“I won’t discipline myself.”

“I won’t pray, trust God, and step out in faith.”

Saying “I won’t” is rebellion, pure and simple. I am not a victim, I have the power to choose. Unless I see that, take ownership of my choices, and repent, I will remain a helpless victim and see little or no change in my writing life. God wants to give me His best, and by digging my heels in and refusing to obey I’m saying, “Not interested, don’t trust you, I want my way.”

Hmmmm, isn’t that where everything started back in the garden?

To move forward, we need to be brutally honest with ourselves and admit that whether we say “I won’t” or “I can’t”, the result – and the rebellion – is the same. [bctt tweet=”When we say “I can” and “I will”, we demonstrate our faith and trust in God. The doors He can then open for us are truly amazing!” username=”@marygscro”]

Is anything we can do on our own worth the cost of missing His will for our writing?

I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has granted me [the needed] strength and made me able for this, because He considered me faithful and trustworthy, putting me into service [for this ministry],    (1 Timothy 1:12, AMP)

Can we all make the journey from “I can’t” to “I will”?

Yes we can…if only we WILL!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mary Graziano Scro, a graduate of Christian Communicators Conference, is an inspirational author, speaker, and blogger who intuitively weaves analogies and personal testimony with practical biblical teaching. Whether “live” or at the keyboard, Mary loves sharing what God has done in her life to encourage others about the awesome life God has planned for us, IF we are willing to choose wisely in our everyday lives (John 8:31-32). And it’s not only about us – the more we invest in our own unique relationship with Jesus, the more visible He is to a world that desperately needs Him. You can reach Mary on:

Facebook: Mary Graziano Scro https://www.facebook.com/don.mary.scro

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Blogs: Life Is Not A Formula at www.marygscro.com

 

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The Ministry of Writing

Daddy are There Potties in Heaven? — Where Do You Get Your Truth?

“Daddy are there potties in Heaven?” My two-year old daughter asked when the subject of Heaven came up. She has been potty-training so potties are on her mind. As a pastor I am asked a lot of theological questions, but I have never been asked that question.

Interesting question, right?

As her theologian-dad I could not let her question go unanswered. I had to provide her with the truth she so desperately needed.

But after Google failed to provide an answer I was stuck. So where do I go from there? How do I find the truth? And while we are on the subject — where do you get your truth?

So as I was replying, “uhhhhhhh” and my daughter was moving on to something else I had a few thoughts:

 

As a Christian Writer, You are a Dispenser and Framer of Truth

Although Tyndale’s dream has long been succeeded in that even every plow boy has a Bible they can read we still live in one of the most biblical illiterate times in history. Our Christian writings provide truth. If it is nonfiction then it serves as truth while in fictional works entire worldviews and understandings of life are framed.

Your readers are forming their understanding of God and a life with Him from your writings. Therefore it is important that you realize that you play a part in the formation of truth in this post-Christian environment. The Bible warns extensively about the dangers of false teachers, and we write against them. [bctt tweet=”If we are not careful we can be that false teacher.”] So where do you get your truth? Where would you draw your answer about heavenly potties if you were asked?

 

Truth is What is Needed

My two-year old could have lived with a cliché answer, and my wife thinks I should answer in a way that motivates her to continue using the potty. So yeah this question was not that a big deal, but our writing is important and influential. It may sound odd to talk about “truth” in terms to such a cute but goofy question. I could simply reply with an opinion or a belief. In the more important issues your readers need truth. They do not need an idea or opinion pulled out of thin air. They don’t even need to hear what you believe. Your belief does not make something truth. Rather we and our readers need to believe the truth, but how will they know the truth unless it is told. So when you want to provide the truth where do you get it?

 

Where Do You Go for the Truth?

The answer is simple, right? The Bible.

If it is so easy then why is it not the place we go first? Why don’t we work hard to make sure that we know what is in the Bible? If you are a Christian writer, but you have not read and studied the entirety of the Bible then your readers are in danger. They need to know the truth and you are a dispenser of that truth. Read it.

But in my case there is no Scripture reference of potties in Heaven. So what do I do? It is important to use the whole of Scripture and work Scriptural to come to the most biblical answer.

In Bible Study turn to trusted commentaries. Follow hermeneutical rules in your biblical interpretation. The Bible is not a free for all. Take the time to not only go to the right spot for truth, but search it correctly and biblical.

So go to the truth and provide the truth.

That’s what I did and I told my daughter, “I don’t know.”

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For my complete analysis on potties in Heaven check out www.graytotebox.com.

 

 

 

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Truth Be Told

With the Right Bait

I was browsing my local paper and right in the middle of the classified section I spied this teaser:

With the right bait…you can catch anything!

Truth be told: what works in advertising works for devotions, too.

Grabbing the reader’s attention depends on a well baited hook. And a good fisher knows which hook and bait to use based on the fish they hope to catch.

I had a group critique several of my devotions and I quickly saw how different hooks and bait catch different fish.

One devotion likened our all-out enthusiasm for God to a baseball player stealing home. The women in the crowd swam right by, but the one man in the group felt like someone saw he was there and he took the bait to his soul’s delight.

As a pastor, I want a devotion that takes me to a deeper place, so hook me with the name of a noted theologian or even a definition from the original Bible language.

My husband doesn’t use worms when he fishes. He prefers leftover macaroni and cheese. He says the fish like it because it’s unusual, it grabs their attention, and it tastes good.

 

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So who do you want to catch?

You can catch anything with right bait.

 

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Truth Be Told

Your Mess May Be Your Message

Shame is an incredible de-motivator.

Shame whispers questions and breathes doubt into our hearts and minds, stifling our creativity and limiting what God wants to say through us to others.

Truth be told: I know this because this demon did a nasty number on me for several years.

Thankfully, I’ve done some major work on my thinking in this area and God has lavished his balm of grace to my heart and mind. Still, it is a weak spot the enemy likes to attack.

When he does I have two tools to remind me he doesn’t get to win.

First, is a little picture I keep on my desk as a constant reminder. It was a gift from a seminary professor many years ago.

The brown tape spots in the corners might bother some people, but they remind me how it has reminded me in different places and times over the years.

I found the other reminder while writing a book about the Prodigal Family. The Christian faith is full of people who understand the battle with shame. And the Book we revere, the Bible, tells their stories.

The next time you feel like God can’t use you, just remember………..

Noah was a drunk

Abraham was too old

Isaac was a daydreamer
Jacob was a liar
Leah was ugly
Joseph was abused
Moses had a stuttering problem
Gideon was afraid
Samson had long hair and was a womanizer
Rahab was a prostitute
Jeremiah and Timothy were too young
David had an affair and was a murderer
Elijah was suicidal
Isaiah preached naked
Jonah ran from God
Naomi was a widow
Job went bankrupt
John the Baptist ate bugs
Peter denied Christ
The Disciples fell asleep while praying
Martha worried about everything
The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once
Zaccheus was too small
Paul was too religious
Timothy had an ulcer

…AND
Lazarus was dead!

Now, no more excuses.
God can use you to your full potential.
Besides you aren’t the message,
You are just the messenger.

I wish I knew who wrote this. I would like to thank them.

There are many ways to use the ugly, shame-filled parts of our lives to bring healing and redemption.

You mess may be your message. Will you be the messenger?

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